Where are you?

I’m a very light sleeper, and always wake up when Evita moves around at night. (Yes, we’re still co-sleeping.)ย Every now and then, Evita talks in her sleep. Usually she mumbles words like, “puppies,” “bicycle,” or “fruit snacks,” but last night was different. She tossed and turned a bit, and then giggled, twice. Then she said very clearly, “Yet! Where are you?”
“Yet” is what Eva called her best friend back in Tanzania. Her real name is “Juliet,” but Eva couldn’t say it right at first and so “yet” became Eva’s nickname for her.
Juliet was her Nanny’s daughter.
She was much older than Eva, but always came to our house to play, even when her mom wasn’t working.
The girls would play hide-and-seek all over our house, run around outside, or I’d take them to the beach.
They loved each other’s company. Juliet was like a big sister to Eva.
It was so hard to watch them say goodbye, wondering if and when they’d ever see each other again.
Now, Eva asks for Juliet (and her mother, Emmy) all the time.
She pretends to call her on her toy phones.
She gets excited when she sees a kid who resembles her.
She randomly says, “Yet… I miss you,” just out of nowhere.
It makes me so sad to know that most of Eva’s baby memories of Juliet will fade.
I don’t know when, but I’m assuming there will come a day when Eva stops asking for Juliet.
This absolutely breaks my heart.
These girls had so many great experiences together.
I feel so bad for separating them.
But such is life when your parents are nomads, I guess.

It won’t be the last time she’ll have to say goodbye to a friend.
But it was the first.
And maybe that’s why I’m so bummed about it.

I really hope their paths will cross again somewhere down the road.
I hope to take Eva back to Tanzania when she’s older.
For now, I’ll just keep showing her pictures and trying to keep her memory as fresh as possible.
Here are some of my favorites…

Comments

  1. Aw that’s so sad she had to say goodbye to her friend ๐Ÿ™ I’m sure she’ll make new ones in Virginia and it’ll make it easier for her without Juliet. Those are great pictures ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for the spotlight!!

  2. Do you have a post about co-sleeping? Or can you make one? Including how-to’s and what not? I vowed never to co-sleep, but with the second one I’ve let her sleep next to me more then I’d like to admit. But I wake up feeling soooo guilty every time…I’m just so worried something bad will happen. Thanks!

  3. Grace was born in Kenya and we lived there until she was almost 3. At that age she was still mostly doing side-by-side play but did have friends from her pre-school and our baby group. When we moved I made her a little book on snapfish with all the special people from our life in Kenya. At first she did not want to look at it – it made her really sad. But after about 1/2 year she would ask to see it and we would go through each person and talk about what she could remember about everybody. Even now, 2 years later, she’ll sometimes randomly say, “I miss my friend Andrew!” who was her “best” Kenyan friend. It also broke my heart to move her, but I also think it helped her become more adaptable, open-minded and good at making new friends. You’re doing a great job with Eva!

  4. Wow you captured some pretty AMAZING photos of the two of them. Mia doesn’t have ANY FRIENDS! How sad ๐Ÿ™ Looking over this post bums me out about that, so at least Eva has made some close relationships at such a young age. Sad that they have to part ways. But how sweet that she still remembers and asks for her friend ๐Ÿ™‚ -Misty @ http://www.momistabeginnings.com

  5. This was such a beautiful post. I have no doubt that Juliet will forever live on in Eva’s memory. You have so many beautiful pictures (and I’m sure just as many stories to go along with them) that she will never forget her time long ago in Tanzania.

  6. These pictures are so precious, and so genuine. You can really see their love for one another ๐Ÿ™‚ and although it hurts moving her away from her friend, it just means in the future when she grows older she’ll have many friends from all over the world, and that’s really amazing.

  7. OH! I feel you here so much. We’ve traveled so much with our little girl and are actually planning some big travels in the coming year. I try to show her photos and tell her stories of left behind friends in hopes she’ll hold onto the memories!

  8. Beautiful post, so emotive. I worry about AOI’s separating from the friends she making here once we decide to move from Saskatchewan the thought that most of the memories she making may fade if we move away breaks my heart, but as you said ‘that’s life’.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *