1. What name did you and your spouse call your baby before you knew the gender?
2. When did “Oh-my-gosh-we’re-having-a-baby” really sink it?
The labor and delivery tour for sure. I wrote about that realization here.
3. When you think of yourself as a mom, what’s the first thing to come to mind?
I picture myself loading up a bunch of mini surfboards (and one normal size one) in my truck and driving my kiddos to the beach while daddy’s at work all day (sorry hun). A lot of things come to mind, really, but that’s the first thing.
4. Is your nursery complete? What’s the theme and what do you have left to complete?
Nope! We have the walls painted & most of the furniture but we’re still waiting for the curtains & some wall decor, as well as finding a place to put some of the stuff we’ve been storing in there. You can see a sneak peek here.
5. List 5 qualities you hope your baby will possess: fearlessness, loyalty, perseverance, individuality, joyfulness
6. What’s your ideal labor experience?
I would like to head to the beach during early labor and try to relax in the ocean. When contractions get closer together and it’s time to go to the hospital I’d like to continue to labor drug-free for as long as possible. I want to avoid an epidural until I’m about 7-8 cm dilated. I want Pennywise playing in the background. Hopefully I’ll be able to push baby Eva out as quickly as possible and then have her placed on my chest, skin-to-skin for a couple of hours before the docs do their testing & measuring stuff.
7. List 5 things that have changed in your relationship with your spouse since you’ve been pregnant:
It’s hard to make a list of something like this. Our relationship has changed in a lot of ways. In some ways, we’re a lot closer than before. Words can’t describe how awesome it is to know there is a little human being in my belly that is half him and half me. It’s neat to look at him and think of him as a father- the father of OUR baby. I don’t think anything can bring two people together more than a little miracle like that. In other ways, I feel more distant. There are a lot of things we used to do together (like surf and skate) that I can’t anymore. Also, my body has been changing in ways that are sometimes really hard for me to deal with, and I don’t think he really understands it at all.
8. List 5 things you think will change once your baby arrives: 1. Sleep. 2. My normally super planned-out daily schedule (while I’m in school). 3. Free time. 4. Priorities. 5. Money.
9. Where do you think you’ll be when you go into labor? Why?
At school. Because I’m there almost every day.
10. Have you been talking to your baby? Playing music?
Yes, I talk to her all the time, especially when she wakes up from a nap and starts moving around in my belly. I love it. I feel like I’m never alone. I try and talk to her in Spanish when I remember and I’m going to try to do that a lot more when she arrives. As for music, heck yea! I have to get her used to punk rock so it soothes her after she arrives.
11. In what ways do you hope your baby is like your spouse?
I hope she is super confident and a great surfer/athlete. I hope she’s level-headed and has a strong work ethic.
12. In what ways do you hope your baby is like you?
I hope that she is proud of who she is and she doesn’t feel the need to hide/change herself or her values to fit in with others. I hope she’s creative and passionate. I hope she realizes the importance of family.
13. How long will you wait for the next baby, or if this is your last one, why/why not?
We probably won’t wait long for several reasons. I think this is a great time in my life to have kids- in between finishing law school and starting a career as a lawyer. I don’t want to work until all my kids start school, so I want them to be as close in age as possible. Also, I think it’ll be good for them to be closer in age so that they have each other while they are going through similar life experiences, etc. As counterintuitive as it may seem, I’m going to wait at least until I get my pre-pregnancy body back, though.
14. What kind of grandparents do you think your baby will have?
Baby Eva is going to have A LOT of grandparents who love her very much and will probably fight over her, haha. She is the first grandchild (like I was) so she’s sort of a big deal. My mom will be the “hip” grandmother who will probably try to disguise herself as an auntie when she takes her on outings to art museums and nature trails. My dad will be the proudest grandpa in the world. I’ve always been his little girl but I have a feeling Eva is going to take my place. D’s dad will probably teach her about faith and God. D’s mom will probably be a traditional grandma who is always cooking her treats and spoiling her. My step-mom will probably spoil her to death, too. I can’t wait to see them all as grandparents.
15. Who will be with you during labor? Who will visit you in the hospital during your recovery?
D will be there for sure. My mom will be here the week of my due date and D’s mom will be here the week after so there is a chance that one of them will be there as well. I’m not sure who will visit me in the hospital during my recovery but I’m open to visitors!
16. How much will you tell your baby (child, teenager) about your past? Why/why not?
I’ll definitely be really open with Eva about my past. I have never really done anything I’m ashamed of or wouldn’t want her to do. I hope I can be a role model for her.
17. Do you have any hopes for your child’s activities? (Sports, academics, school preference, activities, etc)
I will fully support any (healthy) activity that Eva chooses to do. I will never discourage her or push her to do something that she doesn’t like. I’m very lucky to have had parents who supported me in this way. I would be stoked if she loves surfing as much as her mommy and daddy, though. And I’m sure both her grandpa and I would be very happy if she ended up being the 4th generation in our family to become a lawyer one day.
18. When will you tell your baby about the birds and the bees?
Whenever I suspect she’s ready, I guess. More than anything, I hope that Eva sees me as someone who she can tell anything to one day.
19. In what ways do you hope you’ll parent like your parents did? In what ways do you hope you aren’t like them?
My parents have always supported me and my decisions no matter how crazy some of them seemed at the time (like, um, transferring from the Red McCombs School of Business to go study Geography in Hawaii, getting married when I was 19, traveling to South America). In hindsight I don’t know if I could stay as calm/supportive as them if I were in their shoes, but I hope I can be. I want Eva to be free to choose her own adventure (as long as that adventure doesn’t involve things that are harmful to her health, etc., of course). I think that can only be accomplished through a trusting parent/child relationship. All my “crazy” decisions in life have worked out well for me, but I think that it’s because I had parents who raised me to be a good person with the values and knowledge necessary to make good decisions. I really can’t think of any ways that I hope I’m not like them.
20. Which childhood memory do you hope your child will have (similar to one you fondly remember)?
So much of my childhood was spent at the beach or out on a boat with my family. I spent so much time with all my cousins it’s ridiculous. I wish my brothers and sisters (and cousins) would hurry up and get a move-on in the child-making business so Eva can have tons of awesome cousins like I did. (heehee) We had the most fun.
21. And finally, Be annoying! What “advice” do you want newly pregnant women to know?
Well, on a negative note, for those of you that place a high priority on how your body looks/feels, I just have to say DON’T USE PREGNANCY AS AN EXUCSE TO STOP EXERCISING AND EAT WHATEVER YOU WANT WHENEVER YOU WANT! I’ve kept track of my calories throughout this pregnancy and I still jog and lift weights every day. Unless a doctor has put you on bed rest there is no reason why you can’t! Trust me, I’ve gained the least amount of weight recommended by my doctor and I’m still freaking out about the extra love I’m getting on my hips/butt/face/everywhere else. I could only imagine how much I’d be stressing if I had let myself go. Taking care of yourself while pregnant is not only good for your self-esteem and health, it’s also good for your baby’s.
And because I’m sick of know-it-all moms always having such negative things to say about pregnancy, I also want to give a positive piece of advice. Enjoy, embrace, and cherish this awesome moment in your life. Being pregnant is truly a blessing.